Welcome to another Life List Friday!
Today, I’m thrilled to host fellow writer and procrastinator Sonia G. Medeiros, who shares some wonderful tips for keeping ourselves on track in spite of the roadblocks life and our own “I’ll get to that later” mindsets put in our path.
Please also be sure to visit me over at David Walker’s place, where I’ll be discussing the fun of “sticking our necks out.” For more of our Friday round robin, just click on anyone in my Life List blogroll over there in the sidebar!
And now … on to Sonia’s words of wisdom!
How many times have you said the following things to yourself?
“I’ll start that diet…tomorrow.”
“I’ll take one of those writing classes after the holiday hubbub settles down.”
“I’ll try that Twitter thing when I’m not so busy at work.”
“I’ll lay my plans for world domination when the kids get a little older and don’t need me so much.”
“I’ll start/finish writing my novel when I have more time.”
If you’re like me, the count is somewhere around…well, you figured you’d count it up later and then forgot.
I know, I know. You have 542,367,895,129 to do in a day.
Adding one more thing, especially if it’s not for your day job or your home or your family, feels like it might just bring everything crashing down.
So we tell ourselves we’ll do it when we have just a little more time. But that’s a big fat LIE. Say it with me, “Liar liar pants on fire.” Because there will never be a little more time. And, if there is just a smidge more time, something else will come along and fill it up.
You know it’s true.
And day after day sneaks past us like ninja kittens until we are left looking back at a long span of years, scratching our heads and wondering how all that time went by without us pursuing our passions.
Believe me, I know how it goes. I’m Queen of Later.
Bow down before me, all you procrastinators, or feel my wrath. Mwahahahaha. Um, what? Oh…really? Ok. Sorry. Back to the topic…
Seriously though, procrastination is one of my biggest weaknesses. Email piles up until my inbox is begging for mercy. Laundry piles up until we’re desperately washing tiny loads just to have underwear and jeans to wear. My exercise machine grows a fur coat of dust, my reading list grows and my outline languishes.
It’s so easy to put stuff off, especially if it has to do with writing. And especially when the writing gets hard. I tell myself I’ll just do it later. I promise this time.
But since we all know there probably won’t be a later or a little more time, we have to carve out time right now. Because the demon Procrastinator lurks around every corner and behind every dust bunny.
But, um, how do we go about this exactly? How do we smite the evil Procrastinator?
Here’s some things that work for me:
- Make a list of goals and pick some folks to keep you accountable – Life List Club and ROW80 are awesome ways to put your goals out there and find a cheering/keep-you-in-line section.
- Start small – If the big goal make you feel like you’re standing at the bottom of Mt Everest, try making tiny daily or weekly goals. It’s easy to build on them and develop a sense of trust in yourself. I’m all about the baby steps. But, if you’re motivated by big goals, set big goals to challenge yourself.
- Get up early – I am so not a morning person. But, if I don’t wake up at least an hour before everyone else in the house gets up, it’s a huge challenge to get any writing done. Or you could stay up really late instead.
- Schedule reminders on your phone – Schedule daily writing times and program your phone’s calendar to remind you twice. Really pester yourself.
- Plan, plan, plan and list – It’s weird, I love to make lists but I used to hate making a daily schedule or an outline. I wanted to be spontaneous with my creative work and just go with the flow…except the flow usually led to nothing much getting done. So now I plan and plot and list. Plus, it’s fun to tick everything off my list.
- Visualize yourself succeeding and taking joy in every step.
- Leave yourself notes everywhere reminding you of your goals and cheering yourself on.
- Cut back on time-sucks – There’s almost always more play in our daily schedules than we realize. We putter around, watch tv, surf the net, etc. At least some of those things can go so we have more time to pursue our dreams.
- Give yourself permission to take a break – It’s easy to get overwhelmed. Cut back on your goal schedule or take a break. Just be sure to set specific goals for those cutback and breaks too so the goals don’t get abandoned.
So, even though it’s still a bit of a struggle for me, I’m learning to work around my wicked procrastinating ways. And, by all that is caffeinated, I will get my novel written (and the email read, the laundry done, the weight lost…)!
Do you put off your dreams? Procrastinate on your goals? How do you conquer that procrastination?
Sonia G Medeiros is a writer of fantasy, science fiction, and horror. She’s the author of more than a dozen short stories and flash fiction pieces, blogs at WordPress, and is working on her first novel, a dark fantasy. When she’s not wandering along the tangled paths of her wild imagination, she wrangles home life with one fabulous husband, two amazing, homeschooled children, three dogs, one frog and two cats who battle each other for world domination.