28 Responses to The Importance of Sharing Your Goals

  1. Jennie B says:

    Violeta, what a powerful and moving post! You got me tearing up for your little girl self and feeling proud of the amazing writing community that surrounds us. I totally get this because my husband hates when I am on the computer doing writing things when he’s around. Although we’ve talked about it and come to an understand I know he doesn’t get it which is why I’m so grateful for all the amazing writers out there. Great post!

    • lynmidnight says:

      Aww I’m so glad it spoke to you like that! I know you’re someone who inspires me daily, so I take that kind of praise from you seriously. Thanks Jen! :)

  2. Jess Witkins says:

    Violeta, I am so happy to have you as a contributing member of the LLC. Your humor and passion never fail to inspire and I commend you for sharing your personal story with us to remind us why we need a community that will support us in our dreams. Thank you and keep writing!!! P.S. When you’re thirsty, I just made up a batch of lemonade. :D

    • lynmidnight says:

      Aww thank you so much, Jess. I’m super happy to contribute too. And I mean what I said. There’s nothing better than to share my goals with you guys. As for the lemonade… I was hoping someone would get the hint! :D

  3. Gene Lempp says:

    Makes me want to hug that kid too, Violeta. Having the support of friends is the most important thing in helping us to achieve our goals. Great post :)

  4. Susan Sipal says:

    Lyn, such an open, heartwarming post. I’m so glad to be finding myself back into a community of writers after having hermited myself for the last few years. Writers may be a bit crazy, and sometimes sensitive (a necessity for the job), but they get things that other equally valued friends just don’t. Thanks! :-)

    • hawleywood40 says:

      “They get things that other equally valued friends just don’t.” – that is so very, very true!

    • lynmidnight says:

      Thanks, Susan! You hit the bull’s eye. In fact, that bull is now bumping into sign posts because the eye’s practically gone. (Now try to erase that image from your brain.)

      What I meant is… I am glad to have writing friends… beyond words. If Blogging and Twitter can give me that, then all hail social media. ^_^

  5. Great post! I’ve definitely found it to be true that stating your goals publicly is critical. Especially with something like writing. Family and friends understand as best they can but, unless they’re writers, they don’t know the sneaky little excuses we all use to get out of meeting our goals. They don’t know how easy it is for doubt to sneak up or for us to beat ourselves up over tiny things. We need a group of folk that understand and can both hold us accountable and support us when we fall down and skin our knees.

    The part about being picked on touched me. I was picked on as a kid too. So bad. Made me hate school and seriously doubt humanity. Glad I survived it though. Gave me a better sense of empathy than I think I would have had otherwise. There’s some lemonade for ya. :D

    • lynmidnight says:

      You said it so well, Sonia! Being picked on truly teaches one to see the world (and people) differently. I’ve often thought it happened for a reason and that in the end, it was one of those blessings in disguise. Glad to know I’m not alone. ^_^

      Boy.. you guys make the best lemonade! *hugs*

    • hawleywood40 says:

      Seems like the “picked on” thing is so common among those of us who grew up to be writers … maybe our weird but wonderful spirits were already shining through then, at an age that our peers just weren’t ready for them : ).

      • lynmidnight says:

        Mhm. My crooked teeth were shining like you wouldn’t believe, lol. In all seriousness, though, I completely agree. I’ve always been misunderstood. Truth is, non-artists just don’t get the need to go to a completely different world… but that’s fine so long as they keep their thoughts to themselves. :P

      • hawleywood40 says:

        LOL – I think maybe some of my “picked on” years might have had to do with the fact that my going off into my writer’s head often led to me being a clutz and walking into walls, too. It took me a while to grow into my brain : ).

  6. hawleywood40 says:

    Was so very happy to host this guest post. It speaks to one of the reasons I joined the Life List Club – to compensate for what tends to be more of a ‘lone wolf’ nature in my offline life. I’m social and right there when it comes to having fun, but even now have a hard time asking for support in my goals (or anything else) in everyday life. I tend to see myself as the plow-horse, steady, get-er-done girl that everyone just expects to get by and no one even realizes dreams of something more or needs a little help now and then, just like everyone else. The fact that I’ve been treated that way before is my own fault – you are the image you project and no one knows you need them if you don’t tell them so. Wonderful post : ).

    • lynmidnight says:

      I like that, ‘we are the image we create’. It’s so wonderfully worded. :)

      I am very happy with the response I got. When I was young, it felt like I was the only misunderstood person in the world. Silly, I know, but everyone else seemed to be happy. I guess they just hid their insecurities better than I did. My point is that as I grow, I realize how many people there are out there like me, and even though I am a social gal nowadays, I still don’t get what I need from my non-writing friends: understanding.

      This is where social media has come in handy. My friends still don’t get the need to talk to people who are ‘not real’, but every time I talk about my WIP’s they change the subject. Well obviously, we need to surround ourselves with people who understand us perfectly as well as others who complement us. :)

      • hawleywood40 says:

        I’m pretty sure that the Life List Club, the authors at eFiction Magazine, and other writer’s groups I’ve participated in have kept me from boring my family and friends to tears with all my word-talk!

  7. Great post. Friends and family can be encouraging on the surface, but the truth is they rarely understand what it takes to be a writer. Setting boundaries around my writing life is tough, but I’m slowly learning how to do it. Social media and an excellent local critique group has been my salvation.

  8. akamonsoon says:

    Excellent article!

  9. Shelly says:

    Very cool post!

  10. Aurora says:

    Thanks for that much needed “shot in the arm” Lyn (and Hawley, wise choice for the long weekend, well here, it is, anyway) Have a great one all! :)

  11. carrie m says:

    Lyn, I loved this post! Like others have mentioned here, we think that little girl inside of you is awesome!

    I have found (aside from my family and friends), the online world very supportive of my writing habit. You would think that writers would be competing with each other, but I’ve found quite the opposite. The writers I have met through blogging and Twitter and Google Plus have ALL been supportive, friendly and kind. I look forward to following along as you reach your goals this year!

    • lynmidnight says:

      Yeap, gotta love the online world! It’s the only known way to connect so many people over the world with the same interests as yours. Maybe our ancestors were more involved with nature and real experiences, but we can reach farther into the world. Anyway, I’ll leave before I get too philosophical, lol. Thanks, Carrie! :)

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